"ARE YOU OKAY?" 'NO, I AM NOT'.

 Imagine that you have been locked in a cellar with no one to walk you to the path of light and no one to hear your unshown emotions of pain. As reality sets in you realize that you are in metro with thousands of people surrounding you, but there is still a part within you who is trapped within those confined walls and is screaming for help. Do you think the strangers around would take your scarred hand and bring you out of the cellar into their dream world? Maybe not, because YOU ARE NOT MENTALLY STABLE!!

Depression is a biggg deal. Fracture is a big deal. Why is there a difference between two 'g' in these two scenarios? Let me walk you through it. Just imagine that your friend met with an accident and has fractured his leg. You visit him to the hospital with bouquets and chocolates and wish him that that he would soon recover. After he is back you are happy for him and you both start living your life as if nothing happened. It is a glorious scenario, that is both you and your friend is happy.

Now imagine that your same friend lost someone close to him and is really emotional now. After meeting a psychiatrist it is known that he is depressed. What would be your first thought on that? Let me tell you, "if he is depressed he has suicidal thoughts and is very much prone to being emotional now so, I need to behave carefully around him so that he does not get even more depressed." It is then that you tend to behave carefully around him and unintentionally you friend starts to feel as if you are avoiding him which makes him feel worse. Eventually, he would consider the relationship between you two is made in the foundation of pure pity and of course would trap himself in the imaginary cellar above.

My main question is why is there a difference between these two scenarios? In both cases, your friend has been hurt the only difference being in one case it is physical and other it is mental so why a different reaction in both? That depends on the individual, but the common notion which has been programmed in our mind is that mental problem is a biggg deal because we cannot tell whether or not the person has mentally recovered or not like we can tell in the case of physical hurt. 

 The individual who is trapped in the cellar is at fault too, because they do not share their mental pain with anyone as much as they do in the case of physical hurt. I believe that it is important for people to understand that if your physical hurt has left some scars then the society is going to look down on you as you no longer match the set beauty standard. 

 Society is like a shoe, not everyone fits in it. Even if you fit in it you are very much prone to a shoe bite that is constant nagging about your intelligence and looks even though they themselves are completely full of flaws. Being hurt whether it is physical or mental is not a crime, but not asking for help just because of fear of judgement is a crime. DO NOT LET ANYONE MAKE MENTAL HURT A BAD DEAL, BECAUSE IT IS NOT ONE!!!

It is okay to not be okay :)